the definition of empowerment

so I was watching the news a few days ago with my family, and one of those less-popular stories that don’t classify as breaking headlines came on the screen, and it was all about anti-rape clothing. Me being engrossed in my homework, I didn’t pay much attention to it. But soon I started hearing more and more about the issue, so I did a little bit of in-depth research, and what I found absolutely blew me away. 

There is a company called AR Wear, based out of New York, USA, and they have designed a new line of clothing which they call their  “Anti-Rape” Wear. Their line of clothing includes travelling shorts, running shorts, boy briefs and assorted types of underwear. The shorts have special locks around the groin, thighs and waist band so that it cannot be moved except by the person wearing them, they cannot be cut or ripped so that any form of sexual assault can be prevented. Their approach is to sell this to women so that they feel empowered and that they can prevent being raped by wearing these special types of clothing. And I think that it is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard.

First off, 

Designing clothing that prevents rape also implies that the kind of clothing you are wearing provokes someone to rape you is not empowering.

Finding yet another way to blame the person who was raped is in no way empowering women and is degrading in all forms.

There are hundreds of things that society tells women not to do in order to not get raped. For example, don’t walk alone at night, don’t go to bars or clubs or anywhere social alone, don’t drink, don’t wear provacative clothing and don’t trust any strangers or men. What this tells us is that anything women do can result in them being sexually assaulted, and THERE IS NO WAY TO 100% PREVENT A SEXUAL ASSAULT FROM HAPPENING.

And don’t you think that if a rapist did try to take the shorts off and became frustrated in doing so, it would only push him to perform other forms of sexual violation and/or more violent things? It does not add up. The video posted on their website says that women can have “more power to control the outcome of a sexual assault”. This is 100% blaming this on the victims, because they are using clothing to say that women should have more control over what happened to them. Instead of blaming the victims for what happened to them and teaching them how they can prevent rape, we should be teaching more on NOT RAPING PEOPLE. The only person in control of this situation is the rapist, and the only way to prevent a rape from happening is to not rape. 

I mean, to stop a dog from biting you, you put a muzzle on the dog, not wear iron pants.

 

http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/anne-theriault-/high-tech-panties-rape_b_4170609.html

http://www.indiegogo.com/projects/ar-wear-confidence-protection-that-can-be-worn

 

 

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Lost

She likes to get lost

To be hiding where she can be found

To be hidden in the flutter of the wind

And the blush of the autumn foliage

The rustling of the colours beneath her feet

And the billowing in the sky above her

To be lost in nature’s beauty is a gift

To not, is to be blind.

 

To give a brief description of what I just wrote, its a split between attention and nature. “To be hiding where she can be found” is like being hidden in plain sight. It’s kind of like no one really pays attention to the things around them, and in this case, nature, so to be hidden within nature is kind of like a metaphor for paying attention to what is around you. “To not, is to be blind” means that if you cannot pay attention to the most beautiful and simple of things around you, you are blind.

 

Tick Tock

I absolutely ADORE Mitch Albom. For those of you who don’t know who he is, his mind has brought forth Tuesdays With Morrie, The 5 People You Meet in Heaven, The Time Keeper, etc, etc… I’ve read all of them, and I just love the way he thinks, and the way he can put abstract thoughts into words like nobody else. I was reading The Time Keeper for about the third time, and to give you a brief synopsis, it is about a man named Dor, who invented the first clock and is deemed “Father Time”. However, he is punished for trying to measure time and is banished to a cave for thousands of years for trying to measure our existence, and is forced to listen to those who complain that they do not have enough time. He is given the chance to redeem himself, and he must do so by trying to help two completely different people understand the meaning of their days. One of my favourite quotes sticks out to me every time:

“Everything man does today to be efficient, to fill the hour? It does not satisfy. It only makes him hungry to do more. Man wants to own his existence. But no one owns time.”

These words are so simple and I know I can say I have had thoughts like this before, but the thinking behind it is so abstract and complex. Why do we do the things we do every day? Its a simple question, really. One day we aren’t going to be here anymore, so what is the point of doing the things we do every day if we are all going to end up in the same place? Nothing we do satisfies us. When we do nothing, we are told to find something to do. And when we are done with that, we move onto the next thing to keep us going until we find something else to do. But why? Is it to fill the void and pass the time until we die, or is everything we do leading up to some massive goal that humans have not discovered or thought of yet? I myself believe, and hope to believe that everything we do goes into a chain of events that affects one thing after another, just like The Domino Effect. Time is an inevitible process, and I believe Mitch Albom is right, we can own who we are, but we cannot own time, and what we do within that time. All we can hope is that what we do with time matters and will hopefully matter at some point. 

vulnerability

First of all, I’d just like to say that writer’s craft is probably one of my favourite classes this year. However, as much as I love this class, I can’t really say that I particularly like this project. Not to say that it is a bad idea, because it’s probably one of the most creative projects I’ve had a teacher come up with before, using technology as a means of creativity. But our whole highschool career, and even further back into grades 6, 7, 8… we are told to keep our personal lives off the internet because nearly anyone can find it. Yes, this blog is used solely for school purposes, but what happens after we leave this class and move on with our lives? Our personal thoughts and ideas and opinions are out there for anyone to read. I like this project, I guess what I am just trying to say is how vulnerable this makes me feel, I’m not used to voicing my opinions, especially in a place as open as the online world and I assume I’m not the only one. I look forward to reading everyone’s posts 🙂